I’m going to talk about how I’m eating – but there is a point. If you know me, you know I enjoy food. I enjoy deciding what I’ll eat. I enjoy picking out recipes to make. I grow my own vegetables and herbs. I love my citrus and avocado trees. I even enjoy shopping – for herbs, fruits and vegetables the most. >
If you work with someone or for someone, mentoring might be offered to you without your asking. For solo-preneurs or rising stars in an organization, you might have to go seek it. Here are some thoughts from the old hand about how should you go about asking. >
There is a business proverb that I like to repeat, perhaps more often than others like to hear it: “Showing up is 80% of success in life”. Google says that Woody Allen said it first. Well, there is a lot of truth to the statement, whether you like Allen or not.
How many times do you NOT want to show up? You don’t feel well. The kids didn’t sleep last night so neither did you. A meeting, critical phone call or presentation is going to be awkward, or boring or uncomfortable or scary. There are a lot of reasons to not show up. In these moments, it may be as basic as taking the first 3 steps towards your intention.
Why do I show up?
I show up because I committed to showing up and I keep my commitments. That means people can count on me.
I show up to be there in difficult moments. That means I support my people in good times and bad.
I show up because my parents showed up, my grandparents showed up, and now I see my kids show up.
A few weeks ago, I went to the funeral of an in-law’s sister who had a very difficult life health wise. I didn’t ask if my siblings would be there. They were. What warmed my heart was that my niece had flown in from Portland and gave a moving tribute to her aunt.
It is easy to show up for the good times – the fun times. Can you show up for the difficult times or when you just don’t feel like it?
This week, make an extra effort to be there for someone else. Just show up. If no one else compliments you on it, remember, I’m proud of you. You can do this.
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Do you have a BHAG (a big hairy audacious goal)? I found mine a few years ago. >
Do you ever have a bad day you can’t shake? Traffic makes
you late, you didn’t sleep well, you were unnecessarily nasty to a colleague,
too many meetings cancelled at the last minute. You get to the end of the day and
you want to start it over. Get over it. Keep moving. Easy to say, not easy to
It has been raining for days here in SoCal. Finally a break in the clouds, so we got a chance to go for a long walk along the river. It’s brown. The homeless have clothes drying on the guard rail. Where are the ducks, the geese, the great blue heron? There are countless plastic bags and other trash caught in the grasses and trees – some as high as 25 feet up where the water crested from the torrential rains. We keep thinking we see a blue heron and it is a shredded shirt caught in the weeds.
2 ½ miles down-river, farther than we usually go on our river walks, we arrive at a café at the river’s edge. We’d heard there was one somewhere in this direction next to a bicycle shop and lo and behold we arrive. Paul finds that his favorite coffee roaster sells his fresh roast blends here and is a happy man. I find this little saying in the ladies room.
“Life is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance, you MUST
keep moving”. – Albert Einstein.
It occurred to me that I was staying stuck. I was stewing
about the past. I needed to take action to get back in balance. I focused on
the snow on the mountains and how clear and fresh the air was. One beautiful
white egret and 2 blue herons later, we arrived back to the car and happily
ticked off 10,000 steps.
Is there something in your life that is stuck? Is there a conversation you need to have? What action can you take to get back in balance?
On the plane from Lima, Peru to Santiago, Chile I sat next to a young woman whose accent in English immediately caught my attention. I had offered in Spanish to switch seats with her as she had the middle seat between my husband by the window and my seat on the aisle, She smiled and agreed so I explained this to my husband in English. When we all got seated she spoke to me in fluent English with an Australian-Peruvian accent. I’d never heard that mix of accents before! And the vocabulary was SO Aussie, with that “ye-ah”, that long drawn out 2 syllable yay that Australians say.
My seat mate had lived in Australia for 2 years having met a guy there that didn’t want to move home to Peru with her. Just married, she only goes home for 2 weeks to see her family each year. She was sad and torn as she began the long travel back.
Next day at a winery outside of Santiago, we were on a minibus with a British accented woman who was visiting from the Chilean Coast. She explained that she came to Chile 27 years ago for a vacation and never went back. We met her husband Wolfgang who spoke no English. It was a quick weekend get -away for them. I asked her how she ended up staying in Chile? She said she really had no compelling reason to go back to England. And she loved Chile, so she stayed. I heard her speaking perfect Spanish with her husband, with just the slightest British accent.
I was impressed with the courage of these 2 women of very different ages to pick up and go in opposite directions. One from English to Spanish and the other from Spanish to English with all the cultural baggage that goes with it. For the younger woman, she will always be the Peruvian to her husband’s family and friends. Maybe they think she married up or maybe they think she married down. Same thing for the British woman. I wondered how their families back home felt.
I did not have long enough to ask all the questions that have come up for me since. But most of all, I admired their courage to take the risk. They both seemed happy with the choice they made.
This week I challenge you to ask someone who has relocated abroad to tell you their story. You will probably find out how courageous that person is.
The State of California is getting older, too. Rapidly. The percentage of the population over 65 is currently 5.5%. By 2060 it will be 13.5%. The percentage of children under 18 will drop from 24 to 18% of the population. While our children will be fighting for space in the old people’s homes, our great-grandchildren will be strolling into near vacant colleges and universities. >
We scheduled a massage for 4:30, yesterday. At 3:45, I heard the helicopters. Lots of helicopters. Then, I heard sirens. Living close to the 5 freeway, sometimes this happens with a major accident. Not like this. 8 helicopters. They were not over the freeway. Oh no, it is in the neighborhood. >
Watching the World Cup Final between Croatia and France, I was thinking about the rules. About offsides, how high was that kick, did it hit his arm? Was that guy really hurt or is he just dragging out the clock. >
For many successful executives, retirement is a scary proposition. Scary because retirement equals lack of identity, lack of structure, lack of value…Who am I if I am not the CEO of a successful company? Who am I if I am not the CFO, or the CMO, or whatever your title. It may define your sense of worth. >